The Agony of Lies (plus book giveaway)

by Laura O’Connell

I’m delighted to be here as your guest blogger today, Narelle. Thanks for having me.

‘Oh, what a tangled web we weave,
When first we practise to deceive.’

This quote from Marmion, the poem of Scottish author and poet, Sir Walter Scott (1771-1832)  reminds us humans have lied ever since Adam and Eve walked upon the earth.

Lies lurk at the core of human dysfunction. The spidery trails of a lie start out as well-intentioned comments meant to spare the recipient’s feelings. We hide behind the whispers, ‘No one will know.’; ‘We’ll keep it quiet.’; ‘We’re doing this to keep everyone safe’. The lies continue, weaving and crossing over, getting bigger and gaining momentum until they impact innocent lives.

The lies we tell are flimsier than the spider web which, for their makeup and design, can tolerate an enormous amount of pressure, but lies aren’t so resilient. So, what’s the point of lying? We tell harmless lies every day to make people feel good. ‘You look good in that dress’. We’re trying to lift their self-esteem. When a woman feels she’s having a bad hair day, her husband may tell her she ‘looks beautiful’ to give her a confidence boost.

But the darker lies go deep into our minds, controlling our thoughts and actions, manipulating every part of our lives. They sit just below the surface of our consciousness waiting to be triggered and released by a thoughtless choice of words. When we’re tripped by lies that affect us in a negative way, we act irrationally and our lives begin to unravel sometimes with dire consequences.

In my latest novel, Web Of Lies, before they were believers, Aunt Sonia, and Ellen and David Hunt, manipulated their children’s lives believing they were protecting them and their innocent grandchild. But eight years later, they are Christians, and their family is about to be torn apart as the lies are exposed. The Holy Spirit works in their hearts: ‘Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices.’ Colossians 3:9. David and Ellen have no option but to reveal the truth knowing their family could be destroyed if they continued with the deceit.

Are you living a truth-filled spiritual life, or are you living in the flesh where sometimes lying can seem to be an easier option than the truth? Share a time you wished you’d been truthful, and be eligible to go in the draw to win a copy of Web Of Lies.

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LAURA O’CONNELL enjoys writing stories about second chances in love and life. She calls the Gold Coast home, however, her curious nature leads her on adventures to locations that surprise and inspire her. Laura has a passion for telling a good story set in places where she has lived and travelled.


Back cover blurb:

High school sweethearts, Stephanie and Lachlan are torn apart by circumstance, bad decisions and a web of lies, leaving an unknown future for their son, Ryan.

Eight years later they reconnect, but the time apart has changed them. The family had made decisions based on lies and deceit and now must find a way to either reveal the truth or find another option. On the surface, their arrangements seemed flawless, but dig deeper, and the people they thought they knew aren’t as they appear.

Lachlan and Stephanie are forced to confront the consequences of their actions and the entire family is compelled to reveal the truth, find forgiveness, and renew loving one another. But the hardest decision is still to come … where does Ryan live?

Narelle: Laura, thanks for visiting with us today. We are giving away a copy of Web Of Lies to a reader who comments on this post and answers Laura’s question (Share a time you wished you’d been truthful) before midnight on Monday, December 16 (Australian Eastern Standard Time). Print copy available for Aussie mailing addresses and electronic copy for international.

Please include your name with your comment and leave an email address [ ] at [ ] dot [ ] where you can be reached or remember to check our blog post on Wednesday, December 19 when we will announce the winner. You can follow our blog by email, Twitter or ‘Like’ our Facebook page to receive notifications of new blog posts.

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10 thoughts on “The Agony of Lies (plus book giveaway)

  1. Hi Narelle and Laura,
    This is a book I’ve been looking forward to getting hold of but haven’t yet. Yes, I’ve experienced the tiredness of telling lies, as it’s then necessary to try to remember what we’ve told everyone. The truth is much simpler and more peaceful.
    To answer the question, I remember a time when I filled out our homeschooling form, making it sound as if we did far more work than we actually did. Then the homeschooling officer lectured me for working the kids too hard. That one backfired on me. I wished I’d been honest with her.

    • Hi Paula,

      Thanks for stopping by 🙂 Yes, those little exaggerations can lead us into unforeseen situations that backfire.

      I work in retail and have struggled with giving the right response when customers will ask for my opinion, especially with clothing. Everyone has different tastes, and what I think looks horrid they might really like… and vice versa.

  2. Hi Paula,

    Thanks for dropping by. Yes, we all get stung when we try to cover up our failures because we want the world to see us as perfect. These cover-ups create more stress than if we’d been honest. Sometimes, I think it’s our insecurities that stand in the way of us being real and be willing to cop the flack. 🙂

  3. This is a tough question. I know a few times I have been selective with how much I said mainly to mum by not telling the whole story like when I was sick this year I didn’t want to worry her so played it down.
    I am thinking recently when being asked to work in the bookshop I have said I would be ok to work when in truth I really wasn’t ready to work and struggled. Yesterday was a good example I agreed to go in and work the afternoon, when I knew I would be tired and have been having issues with my wrist but felt sorry for the lady I was taking over for. While it was a help to her I struggled all afternoon due to tiredness and pain and It would have been better to have been truthful and said I wasn’t up to it.

    • Hi Jenny,

      Yes, it can be hard to be truthful and say no when people are relying on us. I know I have gone to work when I really should have stayed home because I was sick, and as a result become much sicker because I didn’t get enough rest. Unfortunately too many of us feel like we have to push on when we should be taking a break. Thanks for stopping by 🙂

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